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Yes, exactly.
I thought this was the most damning bit from the article.
A source said "some of the staff don't seem to want to give Meghan a chance. Harry is besotted and understandably extremely protective of her
This doesn't make anyone look good and it makes it seem like the staff aren't falling in line. There seem to be staff who don't like or accept Meghan for whatever reason and if the staff don't want to give Meghan a chance what can she do? No wonder there's leaks all over the place that put her in a negative light. It doesn't sounds like a professional environment but rather that the staff of the palace are more snobby and judgmental than the royals themselves.
I thought this was the most damning bit from the article.
A source said "some of the staff don't seem to want to give Meghan a chance. Harry is besotted and understandably extremely protective of her
This doesn't make anyone look good and it makes it seem like the staff aren't falling in line. There seem to be staff who don't like or accept Meghan for whatever reason and if the staff don't want to give Meghan a chance what can she do? No wonder there's leaks all over the place that put her in a negative light. It doesn't sounds like a professional environment but rather that the staff of the palace are more snobby and judgmental than the royals themselves.
I thought this was the most damning bit from the article.
A source said "some of the staff don't seem to want to give Meghan a chance. Harry is besotted and understandably extremely protective of her
This doesn't make anyone look good and it makes it seem like the staff aren't falling in line. There seem to be staff who don't like or accept Meghan for whatever reason and if the staff don't want to give Meghan a chance what can she do? No wonder there's leaks all over the place that put her in a negative light. It doesn't sounds like a professional environment but rather that the staff of the palace are more snobby and judgmental than the royals themselves.
Sounds like the Sussexes may need new staff if that is the case. That is complete and utter nonsense, this business of giving her a chance. The staff is extraordinarily privileged to get a chance to add a stint at KP to their resume. If the working conditions or their bosses are not to their taste, they can move along and let Meghan and Harry find staff who are loyal to them and willing to work hard.
And how shocking that Harry is "besotted and protective"! Frankly, I'd find it a whole lot more shocking if he weren't, and it would make me wonder about the long term viability of the relationship.
I'm actually wondering if these so called leaks are coming from the previously mentioned and mysterious Melissa: it seems to me she might be the one with the disgruntled axe to grind.
Edited to add: And here's an additional thought. If the leaks that fueled this latest round of negativity about Meghan and Catherine is not Melissa, and came from current KP staff, it is not a Harry and Meghan problem, it is a Harry, William, Kate, and Meghan problem, and knowing that both William and Harry have short fuses with anything regarding their family, I wouldn't care to be any of the staff at KP while William and Harry are getting to the bottom of all this. It also wouldn't surprise me if Charles got involved. The Windsors expect loyalty and discretion above all, and this is definitely neither. Which is why I'm still suspecting Mysterious Melissa as the source.
To be fair, though, KP staff is transitioning from having their royals be part timers who didn’t need quite as much from them. And I suspect there’s a very big difference in work style between Meghan, who comes from the scramble of making a living in an essentially freelance industry, and Kate who has essentially been operating as a stay at home mom first and working princess second. That’s not a knock on either woman—I’m one who will defend any day the decision to have Kate prioritize child rearing—but it does mean there’s likely been a sort of rhythm to the way work for Kate has been handled within the KP office that doesn’t work with the way Meghan operates.
And, people get so overly defensive when Meghan is labelled as demanding and opinionated and claim that those labels come only out of jealousy because she's oh so successful and everyone who seems her as demanding and opinionated must just be jealous of her success. However, that's not true or at least not in all cases. Sometimes people just really are demanding and opinionated. I work with someone who is no more successful than I am, but the way she approaches everything and everyone and attacks each project like a tornado is a massive turnoff to anyone who has to deal with her. She likes to claim that she's just driven, strong, and knows what she wants but honestly, you can be all of those things and still not be overbearing, pushy, and so in your face that you make the people around you feel exhausted or worse, attacked.
What some of us take issue with is what get Meghan labelled as Hurricane Meghan or difficult and demanding. The best they can come up with is that she wakes up at 5AM and sends emails. Oh and she texts 6 or 7 times a day sometimes. That type of thing would never make a man demanding or difficult. It's interesting that when you actually look into what's been presented, it seems to be much more of a negative view towards a woman who is focused and has an opinion than anything else.
Perhaps it seems odd to the staff that Meghan turned out to be completely different from what they expected her to be like. Instead of a woman that marries into the BRF and is totally comfuzzled about what her role is and needs to be "trained" and basically follows their spouse or another member of the BRF for a while to "learn the ropes" and gradually build up confidence, here comes Meghan, which if I had to describe her as I see her, has been in "training" for her royal role for most of her adult life, is very used to working long hours, has studied international relations at the university level, very well acquainted with philanthropic work and has boldly stated in an interview shortly before her engagement that she wants to be known as "a woman that works not a lady that lunches".
Perhaps that nickname of "Hurricane Meghan" is the ultimate compliment. She marries into the family and doesn't waste any time getting down to business. She seems to *want* to hit the ground running and get things done and has a good idea of initiatives that she'd like to focus on. In other words, her work ethics are showing. No wonder Charles gets along with her so well. Its been said that Charles is a workaholic and sometimes drives his staff up a wall when he gets started on something. Workaholics tend to frustrate people that aren't so driven so perhaps the KP staff has been thrown totally for a loop with Meghan.
One thing I think we can pretty well be assured of is that The Duchess of Sussex is no shrinking violet nor is she a couch potato munching on bon bons and most certainly it tells me that the innuendos that she's a "gold digger" do not apply.
One thing I will state that I believe is my truth is that the "Firm" has a golden asset in Meghan. ?
It looks like someone inside the palace is deliberately leaking stories to the press painting Meghan as a very bad person.
Diana went through the same case where the British press were horrible to her ! Now they act as if Diana was an angel but in the 90 s stories about how difficult was in papers everyday !
Moving to frogmore cottage - Harry and Meghan are infact proving they want a quieter life . If they wanted a high profile living , I’m sure they could have stuck around KP since that is the centre of attention .
Harry and Meghan need to get to the bottom of this so called “source” coz that person is targeting Meghan with all guns blazing .
Sad that within a year of engagement Meghan has been bombarded with such difficult press stories ( I’m sure she is very aware what is being written )
I agree with you, Hallo Girl, on the fact that coming into the family there's a lot of protocol, traditions and general dos and don'ts that she needed to learn. Hugging the staff was a learning point we know about.
She knows how to be part of a team but in the royal family, the hierarchy of the "team" is a whole different ball of wax especially among the staffs in the palaces. The concept of some of the things seen with the staff in "Downton Abbey" pretty much still apply as in the "upstairs, downstairs" ideology even though they've modernized to the point where there's no longer "servants" but "staff" and such.
BTW: Welcome to TRF!
Osipi,
Could you explain to me what happened her or link me to an article? I had not heard about this. Thanks.
Here you go. https://www.hellomagazine.com/royalty/2018051348534/meghan-markle-hugs-kensington-palace-staff/
Meanwhile, amid all these negative stories coming out in the press and the negative chatter on social media, Meghan goes about her life quietly and shuts the "noise" out completely. I seriously doubt she reads or cares about any tabloid gossip, innuendo or "stories". She's got better things to do that matter.
Seems pretty simple to me regarding the part I've put in bold letters. As I see it, the staff is working for The Duchess of Sussex. She is their employer. If her team isn't functioning the way it should be or the way she wants it to be, all she has to do is tell those that aren't "team" players to take a very long lunch, permanently, to find a new job without references. I'm sure that Harry would back her up on this.
To be totally accurate their employer is the Queen, but yes Harry and Meghan are entitled to ask them to be moved to another role. Has anybody considered that they are are actually trying to help Meghan and keep her right as far as royal protocol etc is concerned. Just because Meghan expects a member of staff to do something it doesn't mean it should happen. Just a thought.
Except none of the complaints have been that she refuses to follow protocol. It’s that she wakes up at 5AM and sends emails. If that’s considered demanding and difficult, perhaps it is the aide that should reconsider their own work ethic. And that she can text up to 6 or 7 times a day.And actually, they do work for the Royal they answer to. The Queen isn’t going to get involved if the Sussexes want to fire their PA.
Do you really believe for one minute that a member of the royal household has complained that Meghan rises at 5 a.m and sends e mails. There a number of top CEO's follow that routine. This is all gossip, where is the evidence that there have been complaints from the staff, other than gossip.
Maybe you are correct and the person who complained has now left and is filling the gossip columns with tittle tattle, if that is the case they were not suitable for the role in the first place.
My point isn’t whether I believe a staff is saying them. My point is that it’s the only examples set forth as her being demanding and difficult by the tanloids’ sources whom they claim is staff. So it goes directly against what you were saying about maybe it’s just over good advice they are ignoring. We have not heard that. My point is that this type of narrative, whether true or not, is sexist and showcases that person’s lack of work ethic more than anything else.
I'm calling out the work ethic of anyone who complains about people who gets up at 5AM and sends 6 or 7 texts a day and label them as demanding or difficult. And if no one can comment on a person's work ethic if they don't know, no one should be commenting on if Meghan expects something of their staff and if it should happen or not.If we do not know if it is true or not how can you possibly comment on the person's work ethic. What person is it anyway whose work ethic you are calling in to question when you have already said you do not know if it is true or not.
I'm calling out the work ethic of anyone who complains about people who gets up at 5AM and sends 6 or 7 texts a day and label them as demanding or difficult. And if no one can comment on a person's work ethic if they don't know, no one should be commenting on if Meghan expects something of their staff and if it should happen or not.
Quite! It seems that "a palace source" now has a name, perhaps she is even an actual person but I have my doubts. Magic Melissa arrived shortly before the wedding and was "pivotal". I call BS,Hold on, let’s back up for a moment to work out some details. So, if I remember this whole story correctly, it was about a PA that’s quite recently after only 6 months on the job who was considered “pivotal” to the success of the wedding. Ok, so my question how DF is how is it possible a woman who started her job around the time of the wedding to be “pivotal” to anything? Unless they want to tell me with a straight face that a 600 person wedding that was televised around the world was planned in a month or so. No? Ok.