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Who needs empathy for others, truth and discretion when you can sell stories, right
I've read a bit of this book, although I didn't buy it. To me, several things come to mind :
- Harry 'pretends' to know less about what it means to be a member of the British Royal Family (rank, protocol, etc) than I do, although I've just been watching from afar for years
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It has made me feel sorry for him and his life, but at some stage he has to take ownership of that. And it's questionable if this is the right way to do that.
Who needs empathy for others, truth and discretion when you can sell stories, right
I've read a bit of this book, although I didn't buy it. To me, several things come to mind :
- Harry 'pretends' to know less about what it means to be a member of the British Royal Family (rank, protocol, etc) than I do, although I've just been watching from afar for years
- he mocks his ancestry (those silly grey Royals lying dead at Frogmore, the long dead King Henry's who are his multiple-great ancestors, his great-aunt Princess Margaret and her wacky Christmas presents), yet he wishes he'd asked the Queen Mother ('The War Queen') more about her fascinating life and family and relished sitting chatting intimately to her
- he has not yet dealt with the death of his mother - his family perhaps handled it badly, but that is the case with many families in the face of tragic loss
- he has real issues with his brother - he professes to love him, yet appears to have a profound sense of jealousy
It has made me feel sorry for him and his life, but at some stage he has to take ownership of that. And it's questionable if this is the right way to do that.
The bit about Princess Margaret giving him a pen with a fish on it one Christmas and him thinking it was a cheap and stupid gift really grated on me. She was a great aunt, and he was in school at the time. He had everything he could need in terms of clothes and games and toys plus his parents and grandparents were getting him things of that nature. She probably thought “oh this is fun and silly and he can use it at school” and he thought she was being cheap and mean and he’s still making fun of it even though he’s nearly 40.
I thought it was a weird anecdote at first but it gets really weird because the phrase “oh, a Biro. Wow.” gets repeated throughout the book.
It also shows that even though it's a family tradition for these fabulously wealthy and privileged people to give each other cheap, boring, or silly gifts — although Harry may have been a bit young for it at the time, he still hasn't "gotten it" in the interval.
Not even two seasons of The Crown have made the point to him.
That particular tale from the book really grated on me, too. What a spoiled, ungrateful, arrogant little brat. And while that can be said about many, many teenagers the world over, it's quite pathetic that he's still so upset about it at nearly 40 that it has not only stuck with him but had to be recounted for the world. I can't help but wonder what Lady Sarah and Earl Snowdon thought of this bit of oversharing.
It’s clear in the book that Princess Margaret took very little notice of her great-nephew at all during his childhood, or afterwards. There was little interaction at any time.
I don’t think Harry expected an expensive present. The RF have a long standing custom of giving each other cheap but imaginative and fun little gifts at Xmas. However the emphasis with the gifts (and we have read of many examples over the years) had to be big on imagination and fun, a bit of amusement. A biro with a fish on it was quite obviously none of those things.
And so I think Harry presented that particular anecdote in the book as illustrative of the relationship between himself and his great-aunt, ie remote and a bit frosty.
It’s clear in the book that Princess Margaret took very little notice of her great-nephew at all during his childhood, or afterwards. There was little interaction at any time.
I don’t think Harry expected an expensive present. The RF have a long standing custom of giving each other cheap but imaginative and fun little gifts at Xmas. However the emphasis with the gifts (and we have read of many examples over the years) had to be big on imagination and fun, a bit of amusement. A biro with a fish on it was quite obviously none of those things.
And so I think Harry presented that particular anecdote in the book as illustrative of the relationship between himself and his great-aunt, ie remote and a bit frosty.
It’s clear in the book that Princess Margaret took very little notice of her great-nephew at all during his childhood, or afterwards. There was little interaction at any time.
I don’t think Harry expected an expensive present. The RF have a long standing custom of giving each other cheap but imaginative and fun little gifts at Xmas. However the emphasis with the gifts (and we have read of many examples over the years) had to be big on imagination and fun, a bit of amusement. A biro with a fish on it was quite obviously none of those things.
And so I think Harry presented that particular anecdote in the book as illustrative of the relationship between himself and his great-aunt, ie remote and a bit frosty.
Originally Posted by Curryong View Post
It’s clear in the book that Princess Margaret took very little notice of her great-nephew at all during his childhood, or afterwards. There was little interaction at any time.
well Margo was fond of Diana for a long time and stayed freinds with her, even when Di's relations with Charles were getting cool. I dont know of Margo's turning nasty on Diana's sons.
Anne was her niece not a great-niece and therefore Margaret was a lot younger then. She was checking Anne’s work in the mid 1950s when Anne was still in the schoolroom at BP. There’s a lot of difference between 1955 and the 1990s when William and Harry were growing up, and a lot had happened to Margaret as well in the years between. Harry does not say in Spare that Margaret was nasty to him, just that there was very little interaction between them.
It's so petty to go on about an unwanted present from a great aunt, 30 years later. The same with going on about William getting an extra sausage at breakfast. Who, other than Harry, would include things like that in their memoirs?
I thought there was a rule anyway about BRF Christmas presents having to be inexpensive things or jokes. Harry's enduring memory of the biro might be justified if Margaret had given William a bicycle but I bet he had something small too.
I agree, these are ridiculous things to write about. Dear Diary: William got a bigger room and more sausage. Aunt Margaret gave me a crummy gift.It's so petty to go on about an unwanted present from a great aunt, 30 years later. The same with going on about William getting an extra sausage at breakfast. Who, other than Harry, would include things like that in their memoirs?
I agree, these are ridiculous things to write about. Dear Diary: William got a bigger room and more sausage. Aunt Margaret gave me a crummy gift.
It is like every slight he ever felt gets blurted out in his book. You know, with these sorts of concrete recollections, it almost makes me wonder if he DID keep a diary……nah
Both my parents have died in the past two months. They would have drawn and quartered me if I’d been so ungrateful. I’m so glad that HLM and PP were not here to have to live through this.
Thanks so very much, Grace. I’ll be honest - this forum has been a great distraction for me during the numbness of my grief.Oh, Royalist, I'm so sorry for your losses. Sending you a giant air hug.
Unfortunately, I think both of them saw enough of Harry to see how dysfunctional and angry he was, especially in their later years. I'm sure it broke both their hearts.
I cant remember any Christmas presents that I got, as a kid, and certainly I only got a handful, from a few aunts and uncles, and my parents.....
I am sure that i've read that Margo when Diana died wrote to the queen about the grief of the boys... so while she's never been my favourtie royal I doubt if she snubbed the boys and deliberately gave H a cheap present out of spite.
I agree, these are ridiculous things to write about. Dear Diary: William got a bigger room and more sausage. Aunt Margaret gave me a crummy gift.
It is like every slight he ever felt gets blurted out in his book. You know, with these sorts of concrete recollections, it almost makes me wonder if he DID keep a diary……nah
Both my parents have died in the past two months. They would have drawn and quartered me if I’d been so ungrateful. I’m so glad that HLM and PP were not here to have to live through this.