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In late 2017, after Harry and Meghan’s engagement was announced, a senior aide spoke to the couple about the difficulties caused by their treatment of staff. People needed to be treated well and with some understanding, even when they were not performing to their standards, they were told. Meghan is said to have replied: “It’s not my job to coddle people.”
There is no doubt that Meghan could be a demanding boss. There were a number of people, allegedly including Harry himself, who suggested that those early problems were partly to do with cultural differences in management style. (….)
>>>Several paragraphs mentioning what couple of former staff felt/thought about Meghan: “I had unpleasant experiences with her. I would definitely say humiliated.” Some worried about spending time with Meghan (“I feel terrified. I can’t stop shaking.”). Mention of ‘lot of broken people, young women were broken by their behaviour’ (“completely destroyed” is used). That Samantha Cohen had been bullied. (“They treated her terribly. Nothing was ever good enough. It was, ‘She doesn’t understand, she’s failing.’”) With other staff called Cohen as “a saint” to put up with her. And claim that Fiji tour was stressful for staff and a senior adviser reassured them by saying “You are dealing with a very difficult lady.”<<<
The palace knew that when Harry married a woman who was biracial, American and divorced, they had to go out of their way to make sure the marriage was a success: if it was not, the royal household and their supposedly hidebound ways would be blamed. “Everyone knew that the institution would be judged by her happiness,” a source said. (…)
>>>there’s a mention of the Sussexes’ lawyers denying this and that she wished to fit in.<<<
A source claimed that most of the tensions in the household at the time concerned the Sussexes’ relations with the media. “The way I see it, their view of not getting institutional support was that they were not getting permission to blow up the institution’s relationships with the media.” Again, lawyers for the duke and duchess deny this.
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>>>mention how the palace was willing to help Meghan finding a role within the film industry if she wanted<<<
The source said: “The entire place, because of everything about her, and because of what Harry’s previous girlfriends had been through, was bending over backwards to make sure that every option was open.” They said Meghan thanked them, but said she had no wish to carry on acting, instead she wanted to concentrate on her humanitarian and philanthropic work, and to support Harry as a member of the royal family.
That might have been that, except of course it wasn’t. Part of the problem, according to the source, was that everyone in the palace was so genteel and civil; too genteel and civil: “When someone decides not to be civil, they have no idea what to do. They were run over by her, and then run over by Harry. They had no idea what to do.”
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