Leopoldine, I completely understand what you are saying, but I believe, *hope*, its not misfortune that critics of The Sussex's wish on them.....more like karma or comeuppance, if you will.
They went on a certain revenge based mission, AFTER the HI-HO Plan was denied. Starting with Oprah to demean and attack The Royal Family, knowing Philip was on his death bed. They have then continued AND 'upped the ante' with more devastating personal attacks and allegations. The so called ....."Their truth".
Two books, Finding Freedom and Spare, Bombshell Interviews, Netflix Docu-series, Podcasts, Magazine Articles.....its never-ending in a short time. Its exhausting. Meghan was only a "Working Royal" for 18 months, no less.
Many, here in The States I believe were initially sympathetic to them. But seemingly every few months another grenade gets thrown. I mean WHY did Harry have to attack The UK Government's reputation in June as being at "rock bottom" . I thought that was simply terrible of him to say that.
So, I think the vitriol could be two sided. The Sussex's purposely sought to to diminish AND damage The Royal Family's reputation and Role. All to elevate The Sussex on The World Stage. Three years now of their non stop tawdry tales, allegations, and grievances. The Sussex's even mocked the relationship between The Commonwealth and The UK.
Just my thoughts.....Harry wrote Spare under the presumption that Queen Elizabeth would be alive at publication AND for the fallout. He didn't care. Sparing no-one. Charles, William even weirdly her sister Margaret got attacked in it.
Harry was obliquely questioning the whole Institution. Purposely. Elizabeth's life work.
That is what is rubbing People the wrong way. All the while as Harry and Meghan certainly seek to profit from their association with it.