I think Andrew is part of this scheme. I don't see his life any better than hers. His connections with all sorts of dubious people are covered up, because of who he is. I, think, they both love their children and they are who they are.
We've talked about this before. Confronting herself with the truth might destroy her. At her age and level of denial I think it's going to have to be Andrew and the girls to bring her out of it. Specifically in private.
I agree I do think whatever issues they all may have they need to sort it out in private. Though I wouldn't go as far as to say she's destroyed her children but I do think if they are such a strong unit as they claim need to come together and sort this thing out otherwise it could keep coming back.I've studied psychology but I wouldn't call say she has narcissism from what I've learned that would mean you have a sense of superiority you pursue power at all costs and exploit others without remorse. I wouldn't go so far to say she has those symptoms. She does seem sorry about the NOTW scandal even if she doesn't seem to want to completely admit what happened. She does seem to want to please people and make herself look good but I kinda don't blame her when your under that type of scrutiny. Yes some of it she herself placed upon herself but some of it was just plain unfair.BTW Mermaid I may have just misunderstood what you meant by narcissistic if I have please let me know but I'm just gong by what knowledge I have from my course in Psychological Disorders.Maybe the best thing for Sarah, Andrew and their daughters is to sort these things out privately. If they need help, they can do it privately.
Even worse, IMO is that in the Princess'es case, everything their mother blabs about them and their feelings is in the press, and they can't go to the press and say - no, mom is wrong about this or that.I know when my parents speak on my behalf it drives me bonkers cause half the time that's not really how I feel.
The only person saying they are a strong (or close) unit lately has been Sarah. But because she says it so often, that is the perception, whether it's true or not.but I do think if they are such a strong unit as they claim need to.
BTW Mermaid I may have just misunderstood what you meant by narcissistic if I have please let me know but I'm just gong by what knowledge I have from my course in Psychological Disorders.
I reread my post, I didn't mean to sound patronizing, I just really have no tolerance for parents who use their children for fame, money or as emotional crutches (think the Lohan parents or Britney Spears' mom a while back.)
Ah I understand. My mistake MermaidI don't think that she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but I think that she has narcissistic qualities.
I definitely understand what you mean now and I agree. As you guys can tell I do like Sarah I don't think she actually means bad in her actions but it's not how it always comes out sadly. I also think she doesn't actually think about what she's doing before she does it.I reread my post, I didn't mean to sound patronizing, I just really have no tolerance for parents who use their children for fame, money or as emotional crutches (think the Lohan parents or Britney Spears' mom a while back.)
Even worse, IMO is that in the Princess'es case, everything their mother blabs about them and their feelings is in the press, and they can't go to the press and say - no, mom is wrong about this or that.
The only person saying they are a strong (or close) unit lately has been Sarah. But because she says it so often, that is the perception, whether it's true or not.
I agree time out of the spotlight and counseling would be a good start for Sarah - based on her past behavior, dishonesty and spendthrift ways I predict that it won't happen, but it would be nice if it did and then the girls could enjoy what they deserve rather than always dealing with damage control due to mom.
Seems that Sarah is now backtracking her statements that her Mother beat her. She should not have said it in the first place, it wasn't smart.
Sarah Ferguson: 'My mother didn't beat me - it was just a joke' | Mail Online
don't believe Beatrice and Eugenie would allow their Mother to go into this venture, at least I would hope not.
I have oftened wondered what being a good mother means to Sarah.
Not leaving your husband and daughters and going to live with another man on another continent? By that standard, Sarah's a good mother.
....... Did Sarah leave Andrew and the girls? I did not follow the royals in the 90's(too young) so I'm not completely aware of everything that happened back then. I'd like to learn more about the situation you mentioned.
Sarah has long complained about the alleged paucity of divorce settlement, particularly when compared to that Diana recieved. The facts do not support this - Sarah's settlement reflected the very different circumstances, particuarly financial, between Andrew and Charles. Sarah in fact received a very generos settlement, with the Queen helping out, as Andrew's own asssets were not as large as that of his brother. Under English law however, the Queen was not legally required to help fund Sarah's settlement. Please see the other thread for details.
I think you give way too much credit to Sarah, but I get you point. It probably added to their situation.expat said:What I do know, and I have seen, is that from the time she walked down the aisle winking at people and became a member of the royal family she was a very bad influence on Diana. I think without Sarah egging Diana on things just might have turned out differently. Diana was a young, easily influenced, young girl whereas Sarah had already lived with a much older man and knew the ways of the world. Her getting Diana to giggle and do foolish pranks were not likely to please Prince Charles who was not that keen on this marriage to start with.
I expect therefore that in a few weeks time, it will be annouced that Sarah has left Royal Lodge and is in a small grace-and-favour house somewhere in Windsor Park [in the manner of that former Royal embarassment, Marina Ogilvy.] As to whether the BRF then agree some form of modest monthly allowance for Sarah in return for her agreeing to maintain a lower profile, I do not know; by giving her lodging the BRF could demand her silence in return - indeed, by allowing her to remain in Royal Lodge the BRF could already have required Sarah to sign some form of 'low profile agreement', but they chose not to ask Sarah to do this and look what has happened: just the sort of public displays from Sarah that the BRF loathe. Alex
Please can I try to help with some of the facts?
I believe that all Sarah's current various interviews and media statements should be viewed in the light of the real facts:
Sarah began an adulterous relationship with one Steve Wyatt [son of Texan socialite Lyn Wyatt] during her marrriage to Andrew and it became very public knowledge whilst Sarah was pregnant with Eugenie. [The affair with Wyatt started - according to the papers - in either 1988 or 1989. There is some speculation about when her friendship with him, (they had met on one of her engagements) turned to romance.] In short, she cheated on Andrew.
Wyatt and Sarah then split and Sarah subsequently began an affair with one John Bryan, described in the Press at the time as a friend of Steve Wyatt; the timing of the affair with Bryan is a matter for speculation; Sarah was separated from Andrew [NB not judicially separated] by the time she was photographed by a tabloid holidaying with Bryan in the South of France; the photos were notorious because Sarah was at times bare-breasted and Bryan was photographed with Sarah in the prescence of her young daughters. In some of the photos, Bryan was seen sucking Sarah's toes. Sarah and Bryan always claimed that Bryan was merely Sarah's 'financial advisor' and at times Bryan even went so far as to claim that he was also a friend of Prince Andrew and was acting as an 'honest broker' between the couple as they thrashed out their divorce settlement. This claim has always been regarded with a great deal of scepticism in the UK because both Sarah and Andrew were legally represented by the best London divorce lawyers when thrashing out the terms of their divorce.
It was a matter of great comment at the time that although Diana had undoubted cheated on Charles, her situation and that of Sarah were both very different. Charles married Diana when he was really in love with Camilla, who he had let 'get away' to marry Andrew Parker-Bowles because of his [Charles'] 'dithering'. Thus, Diana's and Charles' marriage never really had a chance. On the other hand, Andrew was in love with Sarah when the couple married.
Sarah has long complained about the alleged paucity of divorce settlement, particularly when compared to that Diana recieved. The facts do not support this - Sarah's settlement reflected the very different circumstances, particuarly financial, between Andrew and Charles. Sarah in fact received a very generos settlement, with the Queen helping out, as Andrew's own asssets were not as large as that of his brother. Under English law however, the Queen was not legally required to help fund Sarah's settlement. Please see the other thread for details.
Ghost Night's statement really does illustrate how Sarah, by her statements, leads people to think that her divorce from Andrew was not her wish and that Andrew left her. Nothing could have been further from the truth. At the time Sarah, bewitched by all the Texan wealth [Wyatt apparently had the use of a large private jet] was only too keen to leave Andrew, whose greatest fault seemed to be 1. That he did not have enough money for Sarah's tastes and 2. Had been a serving officer in the Royal Navy and therefore away from Sarah at times, although the Navy did in fact change its usual practice just for the couple and fly Andrew back to the UK to await the birth of his daughters.
According to the better broadsheet newspapers at the time, Wyatt eventually left Sarah because pressure was put on him by his socialite mother, who in turn had it pointed out to her at her acceptance by the BRF and her attendance at Society events in the UK would end if her son was linked in an adulterous relationship with Sarah. This was also confirmed to me by seveal people at Guards Polo Club [where Sarah's father, 'Major Ron', was a member]. The broadsheet papers also speculated [note, I am talking about speculation] that after Eugenie was born, the Palace did insist on blood tests etc to establish paternity.
Once Sarah's lovers had departed, and once her generous divorce settlement had been all too quickly spent, and once Sarah's own attempts to cash in on her Royal status by commercially exploiting her sometime Royal status all failed to produce sufficent income to match her almost uncontrollable spending, her regard for her once discarded husband seemed to increase! By then, her reapeated statements of fondness for Andrew did cause some people to believe that Sarah's split from Andrew was not her fault, but almost unkin to some form of unfortunate event that she had no control over.
I have met Sarah on a good few occasions [the first time I really spoke to her was when she was trying to 'court' the attention of the newly-engaged Lady Diana [as she then was] at Cowdray Park Polo Club.
By the time of Sarah's marriage, I thought that she would be a welcome breath of fresh air - she after all knew the BRF well and was a keen horsewoman and outdoor girl etc and I could forsee her having many a happy time riding with the Queen. Sarah also found favour with Prince Philip, who taught her carriage driving, at which he is an acknowledged expert.
Subsequent events have caused me a certain about of personal dismay.
Alex
Please can I try to help with some of the facts?
It was a matter of great comment at the time that although Diana had undoubted cheated on Charles, her situation and that of Sarah were both very different. Charles married Diana when he was really in love with Camilla, who he had let 'get away' to marry Andrew Parker-Bowles because of his [Charles'] 'dithering'. Thus, Diana's and Charles' marriage never really had a chance. On the other hand, Andrew was in love with Sarah when the couple married.
I'm also of the opinion that the BRF could make a similar financial settlement and gag order for Sarah to take up residence in her home in Argentina. What do you think the odds are for that? 50/50 Windsor Park/Argentina? 70% chance on Windsor Park?
I'm thinking that the Argentine solution also removes the potential for embarassing daily pics of her nightclubbing with her daughters and/or expensive shopping sprees.