claypoint2
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I certainly don't know the conversation bet. them but I meant by ''impolite'' the act of sharing laughing during sad event like this one.
I am surprised by this idea, which I've also heard expressed elsewhere -- that everyone has to be universally and constantly sad during a funeral. It seems unnatural to me. Anyone who has suffered loss (and all of us do, sooner of later) knows that, even when one is seriously affected by a death, one can smile and laugh in certain moments. Indeed, it is an important thing to do, and it can serve as an emotional reminder that life can still be good (even if it will never be the same). I lost my husband to cancer when he was 42 years old and I was 39; the fact that I had friends and family with whom I could laugh and cry at different times was a wonderful, healing balm. We, too, had occasion to laugh during the funeral, as we remembered some things about him that were unique and characteristic.