I will preface this by saying Harry has never been one of my favorite royals so my opinions of him are influenced by that. Meghan, I've never known anything about as I never watched Suits, and had never heard of her before the engagement announcement.
In my opinion, Harry is morphing into the worst traits of three of his relatives: Earl Spencer, Princess Margaret, and the Duke of Windsor.
Harry is charming; people who have met him say so. He can work a room like no one's business and people walk away thinking he's funny and attentive and sympathetic. Yet, over the last two years, I don't see any of that from him anymore.
Of late, he's petulant, selfish, complaining, and I agree with someone up thread who said it feels like he's trying to extort the BRF.
He had a traumatic childhood and I sympathize with him about that, I truly do. When he chose Meghan as his wife, I figured he connected with her over her broken home as well, and maybe they could take those experiences and help lift each other up. Guess not. It seems to be an all-or-nothing viewpoint with H&M and negotiations are not welcome.
William married a woman with a stable family and great relationships with her siblings and he thrived with that encouragement. I don't blame him for trying to tell Harry to pump the brakes on his relationship with Meghan because maybe he saw there wasn't that same stability with her? I don't know.
I'm floored that Harry has become who he has become. I honestly thought he understood his place as being a helper to his Grandmother, father, and brother, but this doesn't seem to be the case anymore. I don't know if there's anyone specific to blame or if this is something that's been eating at him for years and it's all come out now, but he's running out of time to repair his relationships. Otherwise, he's just going to be the bitter relative living in another country whining to any media he can find about how he was "wronged" but can never fully explain how.