Harry and Meghan: Wedding Suggestions and Musings

[Somebody]

If they all lived in the same city during that time I'd agree. But they've lived in three, then two countries thousands of miles apart. I believe Harry met Doria because she traveled to where Meghan and Harry were. Sometimes logistics and life realities conspire against what people would like to do or have happen.

Yee, and were willing to cross the ocean at least every other week to see each other. So, had they wanted to see her father, they would have made the trip if he wasn't able or willing to come and see them.

 

[Mbruno]

If they all lived in the same city during that time I'd agree. But they've lived in three, then two countries thousands of miles apart. I believe Harry met Doria because she traveled to where Meghan and Harry were. Sometimes logistics and life realities conspire against what people would like to do or have happen.

My parents and I once lived in two different continents. Still I saw them at least once a year, typically around Christmas. I admit that many people may not have the financial means to travel overseas, but certainly that is not Meghan’s case. When she was dating Harry, they originally lived in different countries and saw each other quite often.

 

[Jacknch]

I'm now thinking that the most practical and simplest solution as to who will accompany Meghan downtime aisle is for it to be her mother - Doria will be with Meghan all morning, will travel to Windsor Castle with her as already planned and so it would be easier to just stay in the car. A simple arrangement can be put in place for the bridesmaids to be driven to the Chapel instead of with Meghan.

 

[Gawin]

I also think Doria should walk her down the aisle. Contrary to the other posters, I don’t think Meghan cares about her father giving her away, She got married once and her father was not there, and it was no big deal for her. I think she felt pressured to ask her dad to give her away because it is tradition and the RF is very traditional. The wedding ceremony was already going to be “different” anyway though ( with the gospel choir, the teenage cellist, the American bishop, etc.) . Walking down the aisle with her mother would be just another innovation and possibly something that would be far more meaningful to Meghan than being escorted by her estranged dad whom she has rarely seen In recent times and to whom she has not even introduced her future husband.

Emily Kay @courtjeweller points out that Queen Victoria walked her youngest daughter Princess Beatrice down the aisle & gave her away at Beatrice's wedding in 1885.

https://twitter.com/x/status/996093928116977665

 

[Cocoasneeze]

Yee, and were willing to cross the ocean at least every other week to see each other. So, had they wanted to see her father, they would have made the trip if he wasn't able or willing to come and see them.

Maybe he was the one blocking this meeting, not Meghan and Harry. Maybe Meghan and her father aren't that close. It really isn't that odd, families grow apart due to distance and lack of effort. Maybe Sr had cancelled a few meetings, and then felt too embarrassed to meet up. It happens.

 

[Mbruno]

Emily Kay @courtjeweller points out that Queen Victoria walked her youngest daughter Princess Beatrice down the aisle & gave her away at Beatrice's wedding in 1885.

https://twitter.com/x/status/996093928116977665

Princess Beatrice of course didn’t have a living father back then, but it is an interesting precedent anyway. Queen Victoria was known at her time as a woman who broke the rules so to speak.

 

[Tatiana Maria]

Princess Beatrice of course didn’t have a living father back then, but it is an interesting precedent anyway. Queen Victoria was known at her time as a woman who broke the rules so to speak.

I am not sure when the custom was introduced or abated, but it was once customary that widows walked their daughters down the aisle.

 

[Mbruno]

I am not sure when the custom was introduced or abated, but it was once customary that widows walked their daughters down the aisle.

Queen Victoria's own mother didn't walk her down the aisle. I think it was the Duke of Sussex who did it.

 

[LadyGlendower]

I'm torn between Prince Charles dressed to the nines as only he can to send a message being an awesome male escort/or sentimental favorite Doria escorting her beloved daughter.

If this is an episode of The Crown I would write in Charles---strong, presenting his son's bride to the world, offering the sturdiest of support in a a for him familiar setting. He is the future King.

If this is Meghan Markle marrying Harry Windsor in grand style in a society wedding, I write in Doria, offering her daughter the sturdiest of support in difficult times as she has always done.

I'm torn---but for some reason I still lean towards Charles. With Cams being Cams and making Doria feel truly welcome.

Well...real life and all that. I will be so pleased to see this couple tie the knot that I don't care if they call in a drone with sparklers on it to escort Meghan if she chooses!

 

[loonytick]

Ugh, the idea of Charles accompanying Meghan down the aisle is profoundly sad to me. I really hope that doesn't happen. It's the equivalent of saying "I'm all alone...no one from my pre-Harry life is around to be with me in this moment." Nope, nope, nope!

Doria is a great option, though.

 

[jacqui24]

Ugh, the idea of Charles accompanying Meghan down the aisle is profoundly sad to me. I really hope that doesn't happen. It's the equivalent of saying "I'm all alone...no one from my pre-Harry life is around to be with me in this moment." Nope, nope, nope!

Doria is a great option, though.

Disagree. Her friends and mother are all there for her. Having Charles walk her down the aisle is a nice way to show how accepted she is by the BRF.

 

[Gawin]

Doria is the only family member who has conducted herself with dignity and hasn't embarrassed Meghan. And I don't think it's a coincidence that her daughter is the only Markle who turned out well.

I'd love to see Doria proudly walk her daughter down the aisle.

But as jacqui24 pointed out, having Charles do the honors would send a clear message to Meghan's detractors.

Princess Beatrice of course didn’t have a living father back then, but it is an interesting precedent anyway. Queen Victoria was known at her time as a woman who broke the rules so to speak.

And she liked to be in charge! I picture her pushing her sons firmly aside as she marched Beatrice down the aisle.

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[Ista]

I'd like to see Prince Charles escort Meghan down the aisle because I think it would send such a powerful message of acceptance and protection to everyone. That said, if Doria is the one to walk with her, that also sends a message of love and support. At the end of the day, either of those are great options. I think the saddest option would be her walking by herself.

 

[loonytick]

Disagree. Her friends and mother are all there for her. Having Charles walk her down the aisle is a nice way to show how accepted she is by the BRF.

Yes, her friends and mother (and potentially mother's family, members we aren't really aware of because they are classy and QUIET) are there for her...that's why it would be weird and inappropriate for Charles to be the one by her side in the aisle. It would convey a message that isn't accurate, not that she's accepted but that she's desperate.

 

[O-H Anglophile]

And she liked to be in charge! I picture her pushing her sons firmly aside as she marched Beatrice down the aisle.

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The article actually said Queen Victoria was on the bride's left and the Prince of Wales was on the bride's right, and "the Queen gave the bride away." It sounds as though both her mother and brother escorted her down the aisle.

 

[Osipi]

What if it turned out to be that both Doria and Charles walk Meghan down the aisle? It would be a wonderful message of how everything is connected with her mother there for the love and support that Meghan has always had and with marrying Harry, also has the love and support of Harry's family in everything.

Wishful thinking I know.

 

[Gem7]

The article actually said Queen Victoria was on the bride's left and the Prince of Wales was on the bride's right, and "the Queen gave the bride away." It sounds as though both her mother and brother escorted her down the aisle.

Doubtful, but perhaps this is what Doria and this Prince of Wales will do if Thomas Sr doesn't show up.

 

[Gem7]

What if it turned out to be that both Doria and Charles walk Meghan down the aisle? It would be a wonderful message of how everything is connected with her mother there for the love and support that Meghan has always had and with marrying Harry, also has the love and support of Harry's family in everything.

Wishful thinking I know.

LOL! That's what I was thinking. We posted at the same time.

 

[O-H Anglophile]

What if it turned out to be that both Doria and Charles walk Meghan down the aisle? It would be a wonderful message of how everything is connected with her mother there for the love and support that Meghan has always had and with marrying Harry, also has the love and support of Harry's family in everything.

Wishful thinking I know.

This actually has some merit--inclusivity and support all the way around.

 

[jacqui24]

Yes, her friends and mother (and potentially mother's family, members we aren't really aware of because they are classy and QUIET) are there for her...that's why it would be weird and inappropriate for Charles to be the one by her side in the aisle. It would convey a message that isn't accurate, not that she's accepted but that she's desperate.

How in the world is that desperate?

 

[texankitcat]

Disagree. Her friends and mother are all there for her. Having Charles walk her down the aisle is a nice way to show how accepted she is by the BRF.

I absolutely agree! With all the contoversy around her ethnicity, being an American and her family behavior, it would be incredibly touching for Prince Charles to step in and offer to escort her. He has stated in the past that he wished he had a daughter, so I can see this being a special moment for him as well as a clear statement for the world that she is truly welcomed into the family by the future monarch.

 

[christinacg]

I absolutely agree! With all the contoversy around her ethnicity, being an American and her family behavior, it would be incredibly touching for Prince Charles to step in and offer to escort her. He has stated in the past that he wished he had a daughter, so I can see this being a special moment for him as well as a clear statement for the world that she is truly welcomed into the family by the future monarch.

I completely agree. I was just going to post this but you took the words right out of my mouth!

 

[W.Y.CII]

I like the idea of Charles walking her down the aisle (just like Olav walked Sonja down the aisle, a sign of fully support and a warm welcome), but still, I want Doria, she deserves such honour. (honestly I like their arrangement but from the very beginning I lowkeyly hope Doria will escort her)

 

[Winnie]

I don't understand why anyone has to walk her down the aisle in this day-and-age. She is a modern woman and no one has to give her away. I have been to weddings of divorced women that walked beautifully down alone. If they really wanted a modern, lets not have a traditional wedding or formal "sit-down" luncheon affair, they could easily get away with that. What ever, it will all turn out fine

 

[Mirabel]

Disagree. Her friends and mother are all there for her. Having Charles walk her down the aisle is a nice way to show how accepted she is by the BRF.

That would be the best possible outcome, imo.
It sends such a clear message, and it would be a lovely gesture on Charles' part.

 

[_Heather_]

I don't understand why anyone has to walk her down the aisle in this day-and-age. She is a modern woman and no one has to give her away. I have been to weddings of divorced women that walked beautifully down alone. If they really wanted a modern, lets not have a traditional wedding or formal "sit-down" luncheon affair, they could easily get away with that. What ever, it will all turn out fine

I don't so much think it's because someone has to walk her down the aisle but it's probably more of the fact that she wants someone to walk her down the aisle. Speaking from personal experience, my father was one of those toxic people that it was better to be cut off from. When I got married I could have walked alone down the aisle and no one would have thought anything of it but, if I'm honest, I needed someone to walk with me because I needed the support. I'm not a "center of attention" kind of girl and I had a pretty traditional wedding because I wanted my grandparents and great-grandparents to be able to be there but I was absolutely terrified of having to walk alone and have those 100 people in the pews staring at me and me alone. I can only imagine what Meghan must be feeling at the prospect of having to walk alone with 600 pairs of eyes in person and millions more on television watching her and her alone. In the end I asked my cousin to walk with me and we still joke about how hard I clutched his arm when my nerves were starting to get the better of me. But for Meghan's sake I certainly hope she has someone (Charles, Doria, an unknown uncle, someone) who can fill that role for her.

 

[Curbside]

Disagree. Her friends and mother are all there for her. Having Charles walk her down the aisle is a nice way to show how accepted she is by the BRF.

Completely agree. It would be a show of support for their newest family member.

 

[jacqui24]

I don't understand why anyone has to walk her down the aisle in this day-and-age. She is a modern woman and no one has to give her away. I have been to weddings of divorced women that walked beautifully down alone. If they really wanted a modern, lets not have a traditional wedding or formal "sit-down" luncheon affair, they could easily get away with that. What ever, it will all turn out fine

Modern isn't that you have to do something differently. It's that you have the choice to. And I have to wonder if the brides are thinking of themselves as properties to be given away like the old time, or if they want the support. I'd imagine it's the latter.

 

[Juliette2]

I hope she will walk alone because it represents better the situation. She will get more sympathy, too. However, I think she'll be with her mother.

In my opinion, Prince Charles would do it with grace and love but only if forced and Harry might not even be that happy about it. I think PC is in a tough spot at the moment.

 

[Mbruno]

Modern isn't that you have to do something differently. It's that you have the choice to. And I have to wonder if the brides are thinking of themselves as properties to be given away like the old time, or if they want the support. I'd imagine it's the latter.

Again it goes back to the patrilineal concept of family. The bride is leaving her father’s family to join her groom’s family and that is why she also takes a new family name.

In Meghan’s case, it makes no sense really as she is a divorced, 36-year-old woman who has been living on her own for quite some time.