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I've had my Tarot read. It didn't tell me much but the guy who read the Tarot did make an interesting observation. He said that based on the way I was dealing the cards he got a strong feeling I should be careful with my money. I was quite taken aback; in fact I was having financial difficulties at the time. There must have been something on my face because he quickly explained that the way I handled the cards was similar to the way people handled dollar bills and that when I dealt the cards it looked like I was throwing them away and he got the feeling that I had done that with dollar bills. I reflected later on what he said because there was a lot of truth in it. I don't believe he was a psychic but I do believe he was very observant and very perceptive of people's body language and their nonverbal communication. So I do think he could tell a lot about people's emotions, their fears and desires just by observing them.
I imagine Simone was the same way with Diana. I think Simone was probably knowledgeable about Diana's innermost fears and desires at the time they were friends simply because if she couldn't pick that up from Diana's nonverbal cues, she wouldn't have been a very good psychic. That doesn't necessarily make Diana's fears and desires come true; it just means that Diana truly believed them. I think from Diana's point of view, the connection she gained from psychics was less that she depended on them to predict the future for her and more that she wanted to connect with people who understood her innermost thoughts and feelings. I imagine that she did feel a disconnect that the Royal Family didn't understand her or care about her innermost thoughts and feelings and that she couldn't really relate to theirs. I imagine she felt the same way with her family and that lack of connection made her feel very lonely. Connecting to psychics who are very good at making this spiritual connection must have been very affirming for her.
Someone asked why Diana would want to believe that someone was out to kill her, its not as simple as that. When you have a fear, sometimes the last thing you want to hear is 'Oh its all in your head' or 'Don't worry, its nothing' Sometimes all you want is for someone else to affirm and validate what you are thinking and feeling at the time even if what you are thinking and feeling isn't very pleasant. I had that experience when I was young in the business world and I felt that the head of another department was sabotaging my efforts on a big project that I was doing. I and my colleagues complained a lot to our boss and she kept saying, No, I think she dpesn't mean anything by it, No, I think its perfectly natural for her to do this. and finally at one point right before I was going to make a big presentation I stood up to my boss and said No, I don't believe it because she is doing this, this, this, and this. And my boss gave me the most frozen smile I have ever seen in my life and whispered through clenched teeth 'guys, work with me here. I'm trying to make this relationship work and its very difficult' My stress level dropped immediately. I got affirmation that my boss saw the problem and that she saw the difficulty in handling it. I may have disagreed with the way she was handling it but at least on this, I had affirmation from her that I was not making things up in my head, that there really was a problem with this other woman. Actually later I found that the other woman had tried to encroach on our department's territory and so there was a bit of a turf war and the rest of the company was more sympathetic to the other woman than to my boss. So there were a lot of other factors going on and it took awhile for my boss to figure out a strategy to handle it. But it wasn't important to me that my boss have the answers, and I definitely didn't want to hear that everything was alright but it was important that she affirmed and validated what we believed. That gave us strength of purpose to carry on in a very difficult environment.
However, I think its very wrong and dangerous to blindly affirm and support others deepest fears when they are very harmful. It is a balancing act because sometimes husbands have killed their ex-wives so you never want to say, oh you're being silly. On the other hand, its very damaging to keep saying yes, yes, I believe you. no, no, you're not crazy at all when someone makes these serious allegations. What Simone and others should have influenced Diana to do is to confront her fears and do something constructive about them. If Diana feared for her life, why didn't someone put her in touch with a respected and retired homicide detective who was experienced in listening to stories like Diana's and advising them and helping them to follow up if there was sufficient cause for concern? Why didn't they press on her for the need for her to hire her own security? Why didn't they encourage her to reach out to Ken Wharfe who had protected her before and she had a good relationship with and I think was retired at the point? I think its very dangerous to affirm other people's deepest fears when they involve murder without giving them constructive ways to deal with that fear. Maybe Simone and others made these suggestions to Diana and she refused but I think if that had been the case, if I had really been Diana's friend and I saw her disregard friend's sensible advice when it involved something so serious, I would have been sorely tempted to go to the police myself and tell them about the situation and ask them to look into it. And if the police refused to do so, I may have turned to the press.
I imagine Simone was the same way with Diana. I think Simone was probably knowledgeable about Diana's innermost fears and desires at the time they were friends simply because if she couldn't pick that up from Diana's nonverbal cues, she wouldn't have been a very good psychic. That doesn't necessarily make Diana's fears and desires come true; it just means that Diana truly believed them. I think from Diana's point of view, the connection she gained from psychics was less that she depended on them to predict the future for her and more that she wanted to connect with people who understood her innermost thoughts and feelings. I imagine that she did feel a disconnect that the Royal Family didn't understand her or care about her innermost thoughts and feelings and that she couldn't really relate to theirs. I imagine she felt the same way with her family and that lack of connection made her feel very lonely. Connecting to psychics who are very good at making this spiritual connection must have been very affirming for her.
Someone asked why Diana would want to believe that someone was out to kill her, its not as simple as that. When you have a fear, sometimes the last thing you want to hear is 'Oh its all in your head' or 'Don't worry, its nothing' Sometimes all you want is for someone else to affirm and validate what you are thinking and feeling at the time even if what you are thinking and feeling isn't very pleasant. I had that experience when I was young in the business world and I felt that the head of another department was sabotaging my efforts on a big project that I was doing. I and my colleagues complained a lot to our boss and she kept saying, No, I think she dpesn't mean anything by it, No, I think its perfectly natural for her to do this. and finally at one point right before I was going to make a big presentation I stood up to my boss and said No, I don't believe it because she is doing this, this, this, and this. And my boss gave me the most frozen smile I have ever seen in my life and whispered through clenched teeth 'guys, work with me here. I'm trying to make this relationship work and its very difficult' My stress level dropped immediately. I got affirmation that my boss saw the problem and that she saw the difficulty in handling it. I may have disagreed with the way she was handling it but at least on this, I had affirmation from her that I was not making things up in my head, that there really was a problem with this other woman. Actually later I found that the other woman had tried to encroach on our department's territory and so there was a bit of a turf war and the rest of the company was more sympathetic to the other woman than to my boss. So there were a lot of other factors going on and it took awhile for my boss to figure out a strategy to handle it. But it wasn't important to me that my boss have the answers, and I definitely didn't want to hear that everything was alright but it was important that she affirmed and validated what we believed. That gave us strength of purpose to carry on in a very difficult environment.
However, I think its very wrong and dangerous to blindly affirm and support others deepest fears when they are very harmful. It is a balancing act because sometimes husbands have killed their ex-wives so you never want to say, oh you're being silly. On the other hand, its very damaging to keep saying yes, yes, I believe you. no, no, you're not crazy at all when someone makes these serious allegations. What Simone and others should have influenced Diana to do is to confront her fears and do something constructive about them. If Diana feared for her life, why didn't someone put her in touch with a respected and retired homicide detective who was experienced in listening to stories like Diana's and advising them and helping them to follow up if there was sufficient cause for concern? Why didn't they press on her for the need for her to hire her own security? Why didn't they encourage her to reach out to Ken Wharfe who had protected her before and she had a good relationship with and I think was retired at the point? I think its very dangerous to affirm other people's deepest fears when they involve murder without giving them constructive ways to deal with that fear. Maybe Simone and others made these suggestions to Diana and she refused but I think if that had been the case, if I had really been Diana's friend and I saw her disregard friend's sensible advice when it involved something so serious, I would have been sorely tempted to go to the police myself and tell them about the situation and ask them to look into it. And if the police refused to do so, I may have turned to the press.
