Tatiana Maria
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Do divorced Danish women in general keep the surname of their ex-husband or revert to their maiden name?
As most women nowadays keep their maiden name upon marriage - it's common to adopt your husband/wife's surname in addition to your own - most will simply use their maiden name.
62 % of women who married in 2010 in DK took their husbands last name.
That was a drop from 75 % in 2005.
I don't know the current figures but I imagine they are even lower now.
However, as I mentioned in my post that does not mean that she doesn't incorporate her husband's name in hers.
Example: Annette Hansen marry Jens Brockdorff. Upon marriage she register her name as Annette Brockdorff Hansen.
And even if she didn't it's even more common to give the children both their parent's surnames, especially if the surname is a little special.
So our newlyweds newborn twins could be named Adolf and Adolfine Hansen Brockdorff.
ADDED:
Legally you only have one surname in DK, so in the above example Hansen becomes a middlename, but the children are free to register their mother's maiden name as their surname should they wish to. - Say after a nasty divorce.
"It's still quite a touchy subject but, I mean, I am the same person as I've always been," he says.
"It's more just a formality or sort of change of belonging, in a way."
Admitting it's "hard to describe, especially in English", Nikolai says: "I am the same person I have always been, it's weird having to settle for another surname now.
"Or another… not surname, another a call sign."
I enquire as to what his surname is now, something most of us don't have to think twice about.
"I am not quite sure still," he laughs.
"I have it in...I left my passport at home. It's a rather long name, definitely.
"[Title now is Count] of Monpezat so I guess that would be my surname, Count of Monpezat."
Does he find himself accidentally using 'prince' still?
"Oh no, no, no not at all. And in fact, I didn't do that before any of this anyway. I've always been Nikolai. And actually, my alias, I've always used my mother's title, or surname, Frederiksborg, I've always taken that on me.
"It's the closest I could have to a civil surname, my father didn't have one, so Nikolai Frederiksborg has always been my alias."
But the change must have been a shock, I ask, delicately.
"Yeah definitely. And I think it still is. But I imagine a lot of people especially, perhaps women who get married, have to change their surname as well, and their sense of belonging, so I guess it's not that different from many people but still it's … Not everyone wants to."
[...]
I ask about Queen Margrethe's reasoning that the removal of the prince and princess titles would allow for more freedoms.
"Hmmm… I think in the future I will be freer, but I've never felt limited before," Count Nikolai says.
"So for me, as I mentioned before, it hasn't' changed anything yet. I think in the future it will make a difference."
How?
"Not that I had any formal responsibilities before, but now I am officially free of them anyway."
So you don't have to ask for permission now?
"Yeah, I would say so. I guess I've always sort of done what I wanted but in respect to everyone around me, especially my heritage, [I've] always asked for permission, done what's been said and expected of me."
In being respectful of royal tradition that comes with being Queen Margrethe's eldest grandchild, Nikolai says, "I feel like I always have, in a modern way."
"I am not rebellious at all – in my own opinion," he laughs, "but, you know, times change all the time and I like to keep up."
But is he hurt by his grandmother's decision?
"Oh, I wouldn't say hurt, and it's not my intention to stir the pot in any way. I think it's just a bit weird still, I still have to get used to it."
But the change must have been a shock, I ask, delicately.
"Yeah definitely. And I think it still is. But I imagine a lot of people especially, perhaps women who get married, have to change their surname as well, and their sense of belonging, so I guess it's not that different from many people but still it's … Not everyone wants to."
I ask about Queen Margrethe's reasoning that the removal of the prince and princess titles would allow for more freedoms.
"Hmmm… I think in the future I will be freer, but I've never felt limited before," Count Nikolai says.
"So for me, as I mentioned before, it hasn't' changed anything yet. I think in the future it will make a difference."
I enquire as to what his surname is now, something most of us don't have to think twice about.
"I am not quite sure still," he laughs.
"I have it in...I left my passport at home. It's a rather long name, definitely.
"[Title now is Count] of Monpezat so I guess that would be my surname, Count of Monpezat."
Does he find himself accidentally using 'prince' still?
"Oh no, no, no not at all. And in fact, I didn't do that before any of this anyway. I've always been Nikolai. And actually, my alias, I've always used my mother's title, or surname, Frederiksborg, I've always taken that on me.
"It's the closest I could have to a civil surname, my father didn't have one, so Nikolai Frederiksborg has always been my alias."
I'm surprised they don't just use "de Monpezat." It's part of their title, and it is the paternal name. Their grandfather would have loved it!
He and his brother may well feel more Danish than French. Has Nikolai spent a great deal of time in France, of his own volition I mean, not accompanying his family or doing his modelling work?
"I'm not sure what my last name is, let me check my passport" is droning?
He's a semi-famous figure with a media profile who was put in an extremely embarrassing position by his grandmother, not of his own making. Of course he's going to be asked about it, and if he says "no comment" for the rest of time people who want to see him as sullen and petulant will still do just that.
Nikolai has always been pretty gracious and well-spoken about things and I'm not sure why that would change due to a title, either.
I'm surprised they don't just use "de Monpezat." It's part of their title, and it is the paternal name. Their grandfather would have loved it!
Why would they consider themselves French?
They are born and raised in Denmark. Neither of their parents as French. Unlike their younger siblings they have never lived or gone to school there. One of their grandparents is French. One of my grandparents is British doesn't make me less Canadian, just part of my heritage.
Henrik and Athena are a different matter considering their mother in French. And they spent some years living in France.
"I'm not sure what my last name is, let me check my passport" is droning?
He's a semi-famous figure with a media profile who was put in an extremely embarrassing position by his grandmother, not of his own making. Of course he's going to be asked about it, and if he says "no comment" for the rest of time people who want to see him as sullen and petulant will still do just that.
Nikolai has always been pretty gracious and well-spoken about things and I'm not sure why that would change due to a title, either.
IMO, yes.
While I believe most can agree on this being handled in the most clumsy way imaginable, it has happened. It was bound to happen anyway. It's fact of life now and it won't be changed.
And judging from Nikolai's triumphant stay in Australia, not that much has changed on a daily basis for him.
Yet, in his most recent interview he still goes on about his traumatic loss of identity. We've heard you, Nikolai and we get it. Bad. Bad for you. Almost PTSD bad in fact.
But it won't make an iota of difference. At best no one cares, at worst it will become counter productive for him, personally in Denmark and for his career outside the modelling world. No one likes a perpetual whiner.
Get over it and move on. Life is sometimes though.
- And it is in that perspective many, if not most, Danes see Nikolai.
His problem is unrelatable.
There are many other problems for the ordinary Dane to worry about right now.
We've just had the worst flood in 100+ years with a lot of damage.
We are sending load after load of weapons to Ukraine where people Nikolai's age are fighting and dying.
Ordinary Danes of Nikolai's age are expected to retire at 72, perhaps (probably) even later. How many of his contemporaries will last that long, I wonder?
All our personal problems are huge in our own eyes, that's only human but when you complain about your problems, and keep complaining about them, people will begin to put your problems in relation to other more serious problems and then the sympathy wears out.
Nikolai seems unable to understand that.
I mean: Nikolai is not dead. He is not an invalid. He did not lose someone near and dear. His financial situation is excellent. He is getting a first rate education. He is intelligent. He is not homeless. He is (still) treated like royalty. He has great hair (according to some ? ). He still has his girlfriend of now quite a number of years. His future is looking pretty bright.
So, he lost his title, but he still has all of the above. That's not so bad, is it?
To be frank, the "royal treatment" that Nikolai is getting in Australia is above and beyond what he would probably get nowadays in Europe, even in Denmark itself.
Given the surprising high profile that the Australians assigned to Nikolai, I wonder what would happen if Christian spent a year studying in Australia as some commentators have suggested he might do in the future. I suppose at this point that it would be impossible for Christian to have a private life in Australia without being overwhelmed by media attention, which is unfortunate and might discourage him from going there as a student.
To be frank, the "royal treatment" that Nikolai is getting in Australia is above and beyond what he would probably get nowadays in Europe, even in Denmark itself.
Given the surprising high profile that the Australians assigned to Nikolai, I wonder what would happen if Christian spent a year studying in Australia as some commentators have suggested he might do in the future. I suppose at this point that it would be impossible for Christian to have a private life in Australia without being overwhelmed by media attention, which is unfortunate and might discourage him from going there as a student.
From Parliment.
https://www.stm.dk/presse/pressemeddelelser/hendes-majestaet-dronningen-abdicerer/
Her Majesty Queen Margrethe II has decided to abdicate the throne. The abdication will take place on 14 January 2024, which is the 52nd anniversary of the Queen's accession to the throne.
At the same time, His Royal Highness Crown Prince Frederik will take over the throne as His Majesty King Frederik 10. After a meeting in the Council of State, the Prime Minister will proclaim the change of throne at Christiansborg Castle.
Queen Margrethe II took over the throne on 14 January 1972 after her father, King Frederik IX, upon his death.
After the change of throne, the Queen will continue to be titled as Her Majesty.
We will soon also know for sure whether King Frederik 10 changes the name of the royal dynasty: Many Anglophone royal watchers have argued that he should adopt his male-line ancestors' family name (which would be Laborde, not Monpezat as often claimed), but I would be surprised if he did not keep the royal names of Glücksborg and Oldenborg. Even ordinary women in Denmark can and often do pass their names to their offspring.
I understand your point about de Laborde being the original family name, but the family has signaled through the comital titles that they recognize de Monpezat as Henri's family name.
The late Prince Consort actually mentioned this in his memoirs, saying, "During our generation the future sovereign will perhaps receive approval to see 'Monpezat' added to the dynastic name of Oldenburg-Glücksborg."
(It's interesting to note that he refers to the sovereign receiving permission to change the house name. Would the government have to approve it?)
I recall Frederik referring to his father as the "lion of Monpezat" in a speech at a formal dinner. (Maybe his parents' anniversary? I don't recall.)
To celebrate over one thousand years of royal history, maybe Frederick can go in the Grimaldi or Windsor*-style and re-create a new official dynastic name out of an old one. Maybe revive an ancient name like the House of Knýtlinga
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/House_of_Knýtlinga
Will Queen M be referred as Queen Emeritus, which seems now a new tradition started when a previous Pope retired and then adapted to Spain's King Juan Carlos and Queen Sofia upon retirement?
*I read the other day that the Windsor family, if it followed old name traditions, would be now 'of Greece and Denmark' since Queen Elizabeth married prince Phillip. So, the Greek/Danish royals and unofficially at Buckingham palace now.
I wonder what the full title of the new monarch will be. Will it follow the current Queen's example and be Danmarks Konge in the Swedish fashion? Or will it revert to past Danish practice and be Kong af Danmark?
If they would use the emeritus title (so far, this seems to happen only in Spain and Japan - but not for example in Belgium nor Luxembourg where they also keep their previous title), she would be queen emerita not queen emeritus (which is the male version; therefore, there is a king emeritus and an emperor emeritus and a queen emerita and an empress emerita).
I wonder what the full title of the new monarch will be. Will it follow the current Queen's example and be Danmarks Konge in the Swedish fashion? Or will it revert to past Danish practice and be Kong af Danmark?
We will soon also know for sure whether King Frederik 10 changes the name of the royal dynasty: Many Anglophone royal watchers have argued that he should adopt his male-line ancestors' family name (which would be Laborde, not Monpezat as often claimed), but I would be surprised if he did not keep the royal names of Glücksborg and Oldenborg. Even ordinary women in Denmark can and often do pass their names to their offspring.
I believe King Frederik IX was styled “ Konge til Danmark” rather than “ Konge af Danmark “.
See for example the preamble to the Succession to the Throne Act of 1953.
As you have correctly stated, Queen Margrethe II uses the title “ Danmarks Dronning” as opposed to her mother who, as Queen Consort, was titled “ Dronning af Danmark”.
But those ordinary women most likely don’t have territorial designations as a last name and Glucksberg and Oldenburg aren’t last names. Pretty sure the old family name will be retaining just like in the NetherlandsI wonder what the full title of the new monarch will be. Will it follow the current Queen's example and be Danmarks Konge in the Swedish fashion? Or will it revert to past Danish practice and be Kong af Danmark?
We will soon also know for sure whether King Frederik 10 changes the name of the royal dynasty: Many Anglophone royal watchers have argued that he should adopt his male-line ancestors' family name (which would be Laborde, not Monpezat as often claimed), but I would be surprised if he did not keep the royal names of Glücksborg and Oldenborg. Even ordinary women in Denmark can and often do pass their names to their offspring.