Lady Nimue's comments tally closely to what was in the Tina Brown biography
I should read Tina Brown.
Diana lost a lot of perspective of her place in the overall set up of the RF and her star power was too overpowering and threw the group dynamic out balance.
She definitely was obsessed with her fashion reviews. We are told she pored over her pictures in the newspapers. She effectively lived through her press. It became her 'career'. Just with that alone I can understand why she did not want to go into a private life after she divorced. Letting go of her 'career' would have been hard on her, but the raison d'être for that 'career' was gone with the divorce, except as mother to the future king. I find her end so sad. (If only she had been more circumspect....totally different outcome).
She also overlooked the basic fact that her husband was the future king and therefore not a man to anger or alienate.
Have definitely read that Charles has a temper, but have also heard (read) that Charles is the first to apologize, and is extremely generous, both with friends and servants. My impression is he is a sensitive sort. It seems to me that Charles would have done what he could to make it all agreeable. That she was so relentless against him has always puzzled me.
She may have been popular with the public but her social base was narrow and during the early years offended too many within her and Cs social circle - including Camilla who was not a woman to treat lightly or in an offhanded way.
That is what I understand, too, and it's an interesting way to put it: her social base among her social peers was narrow. What was sad about it all was had she 'taken to' the social milieu Charles introduced her to (which would have included his dinner parties with the luminaries of the day, etc) she would have been part of a very smart set, indeed. (This is something I do not understand about Diana: how much she threw away, and how much she did not understand about embracing a spouse's world).
Diana's delusions about her family's power, influence, and status I.e. That they were somehow superior to the RF was also a major factor in her behaviour becoming more arrogant and unbalanced, as well as causing a great deal of offence her in laws who are sensitive I the subject of their German heritage. The time of aristocratic grandees being able to run rival courts and influence the choice of King was long gone but somone failed to tell Diana this fact until it was too late.
Is all this in Tina Brown's bio of Diana? Interesting thinking. Did people really think like this when Diana was alive? I haven't come across it in the books I've read.
Question: Is it worth while to read Tina Brown bio of Diana?
A thought occurs to me: that because Diana really was not part of her social set (not sure why, maybe education?) she found it hard to accept the world she found around Charles, which really doomed the relationship. She found it easier to be generous with the social strata 'below' her. She just had to exist with them and was adored. Just a thought. Would explain a lot.
I do not know where the idea that Camilla was a problem throughout the marruage came from initially. Charles refused to drop his friends both male and female to satisfy Diana's need for his total attention and after their seperation it was Tiggie Legge-Bourke that was the target of her ire, right down to publically accusing her of falling pregnant and aborting it.
Exactly so.