According to Giles Brandreth, Diana was asked her views on the marriage in 1994. "Over my dead body", she said. However, in 1996, she said, "They should marry and I'd be happy for them". Her death only put back the marriage and had she been alive, they'd have still married but before 2000 and not after it.
If you look at the wedding footage, it's very clear that William and Harry have a great relationship with their stepmother. Didn't Harry say that they both love her to bits? (He was told to say that I suppose?). In short, Charles adores her. The Queen has given her blessing and gets on extremely well with her. William and Harry love her and have a good relationship with her. She doesn't shirk her duties. She carries out engagements with a Queen Mother like charm and elegance and seems to touch everyone she talks to. She is turning out to be not only one of the hardest working but also one of the most liked members of the Royal Family. People are seeing the real Camilla and not the tabloid monster.
My sister is 13 nearly 14 and she is of the generation that has very little connection with the Monarchy. When she had some friends here, I asked them what they thought of Camilla and I was pleased and suprised to hear that they like her and think she's nice.
It amazes me that by referring to her by a nickname and generally making sweeping statements about her character you think Camilla will say, "Oh well, let's throw in the towel". Diana died and yes, it was very sad. I don't think William and Harry have forgotten their mother - but nor have they distanced Camilla.
I think what we have to ask ourselves is, what does the Monarchy need. I believe we need another Queen Mother figure and I feel we've got that in Camilla. Her comments always seem to be right. When she spoke off the cuff to the cameras after visiting victims of the London Bombings she said, "Seeing all these people here made me feel very proud to be British". Now, on London's main radio station, there is a presenter who was rather nasty about Camilla. But when that clip of her was flashed across the country, he completely changed and said, "She said what the country was thinking". She turns up with a smile and a can-do approach.
Look at the engagement where the Prince of Wales couldn't make it. She carried on regardless and made her appearance. I've noticed that whatever happens, wherever they are - there's a gap. She deliberately let's him walk in front, just like Prince Philip has done with the Queen for all these years and just as Diana never did.
Camilla isn't young. But she isn't old either. She doesn't try to be a faded photocopy of Diana because the original copy wasn't all that successful. Remember that the role of a Royal wife is to support, not to become a star in your own right. Some people are judging her on fashion (there's talk of 'Camilla Chic' entering the dictionary) whilst others see past that and see this amazing woman who has been hidden away in years of fabricated scandal.
When I saw her in the Delhi Durbar tiara, walking alongside Prince Haakon I thought, "Well done Milla - you've made it!".
I think, and judging by the posts before mine here, Camilla's real evolution began at her wedding. For the first time, it wasn't a photograph of her holding a shopping bag or dashing into a hotel. It was a photograph of her looking absolutely beautiful in that flowing porcelain blue gown, that gold feathery tiara and yes, even her hair was perfect! People saw that she had a hidden something. And immediately, the press over here began to change in the way they spoke about her.
'The Sun' was a fierce critic of Diana, but their coverage of Charles and Camilla's wedding said of Camilla (and I quote) , "The bride looked absolutely radiant and obviously overjoyed". I don't like it when they do, but they asked people who had met them what they thought. All the comments were good. One woman said after meeting them on honeymoon (and this is from a copy of the newspaper), "Camilla spoke to me and said she hoped her hat wouldn't blow away. She told me I'd been sensible to go for a wooly hat! She was so nice and friendly - I think she'll win people over".
I think she can too. The trouble is, that while the country gets used to her, there are a sad group of individuals who want to create this mythical almost goddess-like hype around Diana. They seem to sputter and scream whenever they see Camilla - and why? They always cite the affair etc, but they seem to totally forgive all of Diana's mistakes. I find that slightly disturbing and I find it dissapointing that people (and let's face it, it's none of their business and Diana would probably think some of their actions totally repugnant) can't move on and look to the future.
And that's my piece!