I have just been reading an authorised biography of Pieter van Vollenhoven. I never realised just how difficult their engagement and wedding was. Queen Juliana was the only one in favor of the match it seems. The court, Bernhard, Armgard, Beatrix, several ministers etc. were all against it, as were much of Pieter's friends and family from the patriciate and nobility of Rotterdam, including his own parents. The latter were actually greatly embarrassed as for a man to marry 'above' his station in life was considered an enormous faux pas which showed lack of character.
Apart from all the resentment, disapproval and shame, there was also a big issue with the wedding location. Something I never heard of before. The root of it was the wedding of Princess Irene.
The Dutch government did not want the wedding of Irene to become a focus point for a pro-carlist demonstration and was against a grand wedding in The Hague. To evade embarrassement, the Parma family was told that all younger princesses would marry in Baarn, including Irene. The Parma's didn't find the location grand enough and opted for Rome instead, much to the relief of the government.
Now when it was Margriet's turn she very much wanted to get married in The Hague, like ALL Dutch princesses before her (save her two elder sisters). Carlos-Hugo and Irene were dead set against it due to the agreement made about their own wedding. Bernhard -of course- supported his favourite daughter Irene, as did Armgard. Beatrix did so too as she was unhappy with a Dutch commoner being married into the family (although the Van Vollenhoven family can be considered more prestigious than the Von Amsbergs). Juliana tried to navigate her way but quietly agreed with Margriet.
Prime minister Cals received various contradictory messages an phone calls from members of the family. Some said Margriet wanted to get married in Baarn, some said Juliana was in favor of it too, or that Bernhard was in favor of a wedding in The Hague etc. The latter thing was followed with two angry phone calls from Bernhard to the PM, in which he said he was strongly against a wedding in The Hague, and so was his wife, he claimed. Queen Juliana -who was listening to the phone call- called the PM 5 minutes later, saying she was not against a wedding in The Hague at all.
Juliana didn't want to force a family row over the matter but asked the PM if he could not insist on a wedding in The Hague? Initially the PM didn't want to get into this family quarrel. In the end the thing was settled by the mayor of The Hague who said that his city would be angry if the wedding would take place elsewhere.
Princess Margriet probably wanted The Hague also to show that she thought she actually strengthened the monarchy with her choice of a Dutch commoner for a husband. An idea that was always supported by her mother and which was also discussed with her late grandmother Queen Wilhelmina -to whom she was much closer than her other sisters were as she spent many weekends with the old queen at Het Loo Palace. Wilhelmina thought that a marriage to a Dutch commoner would show the strong bond between the house of Orange and the people of The Netherlands. She disliked the nobility immensely and did not want any noble families get any ideas into their heads by being related to the RF. In the end Margriet, Juliana and Wilhelmina were right of course. Princess Armgard didn't attend the wedding out of protest btw, though the official explanation was that she had fallen ill.