I noticed that as well and I don't think it was a slip of the tongue.
She was talking about her own thoughts. She can not include Joachim when talking about her thoughts. She is not the representative of what went on inside Joachims brain at the time. Only Joachim can talk about his thoughts.
Well, I suppose the fact that one can only speak for oneself is common knowledge
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Lilla and I saw the same interview, but once again, we hear things differently and interpret them differently! We do that because we are individuals with different mind-sets, biases and pre-understandings!
You can choose to believe that Joachim instigated the split OR you may prefer to believe that Alexandra and Joachim reached a decision to separate about the same time; and then again, you can choose to believe that Alexandra was the party who wanted out of the marriage. I lean towards the latter for a number of reasons.
Here is my translation of some of the key-points of the interview:
(the first quote was held in general terms):
question: "When do you ("one") realize that a relationship is through"?
Answer: "When one feels that one has done what one could, when both parties have done what they could .....when you still respect one another
and are able to talk matters through, when you want to keep the friendship that's still there . There isn't a specific time when you wake up and say "Now's the time". It's a long process. I/we/one (sic) probably try anything before admitting, that something else must happen".
(the following part was more specific):
question: "Was it (the divorce) dramatic"?
Answer: "It was a mega-hard decision; it wasn't something I took (sic) overnight. ... it was a decision, that --of course, it would have been a lot easier had it been a decision,which ..had the consequences only affected me. Regretably I couldn't say (it was), of course it affected our children and others as well - but that said, when you are two who have finally reached the decision, who want to get on with their lives and who wish
the best for one another, then- I've always said that the second best
after a good marriage is happy divorce".
This is not about whether Lilla's perception is correct --or mine. for that
matter! IMO Alexandra chose her words carefully, which is reflected
in the "jumps & turns" in the quotes.
Did she instigate the divorce, or was it a common initiative?
At the end of the day, her statements can be minced to the effect that both understandings are possible!